Surrogate Process
Tips for your first Zoom call with potential IPs
- Try to find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted. Giving your full attention to the call will show your IPs this is important to you.
- For a Zoom call, it’s a good idea to open up Zoom before your scheduled call and give it a quick test to make sure everything is working correctly.
- Review your IPs profile again and write down questions you want to cover during your call. It’s easy to forget things once the conversation starts flowing.
- Don’t stress… try to relax! Your IPs are likely just as nervous as you are! After your phone call is over, call or email your coordinator to let her know how things went.
Here are some sample questions or topics you can ask to keep the conversation flowing:
- What led your potential IPs to surrogacy?
- What are your expectations for the birth?
- What are your hopes and expectations for communication? (frequency and what form of communication they prefer)
- What kind of relationship do you expect from me? (before, during and after the birth)
- How do you feel about multiples?
- Ask general questions about family and lifestyle.
- Are you on board with meeting my children and allowing my children to meet the baby after he/she is born?
- Do you plan to tell your child about surrogacy when he/she is older?
- Does your family know about your plans for surrogacy? Are they supportive?
- How do you spend your free time?
- Who will be present during the birth?
- What are your thoughts on termination? Under what circumstances do you feel that it is necessary?
- Do you want me to provide you pumped breast milk after the baby is born?
- How soon are you looking to transfer?
- Are you using your own eggs/sperm or donor?
- How many children are you hoping to have via surrogacy? Are you open to a sibling journey if all goes well?
- What kind of relationship can I expect from you after the birth of the baby?
- If you live internationally, how do you plan to be involved in this journey? (Zoom/FaceTime, visits, etc.)